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EP 201 | Navigating Postpartum, Business & Marriage: Dr. Nona Djavid’s Story of Transformation
Have you ever found yourself sobbing, wondering how you ended up so far from the life you actually want? That's exactly where Dr. Nona found herself—a successful business owner with 13 employees, a new baby, and a marriage that wasn't working. Despite checking all the boxes of conventional success, she was deeply unhappy.
In this raw and transformative conversation, Dr. Nona shares her journey from that rock-bottom moment to completely rebuilding her life around an authentic vision. After immigrating from Iran at 16 without speaking English, she built businesses driven by fear and a need for validation. It wasn't until her emotional breaking point that she finally embraced the vision she'd been dismissing as unreasonable.
Ready to start saying "yes" to your own vision? Listen now and discover how trusting your gut and making aligned daily choices can gradually bridge the gap between where you are and where you truly want to be.
Chapters:
- 0:46: Rock Bottom in the Closet
- 10:30: From Iran to America: A Defining Moment
- 16:35: Redefining Success Beyond Validation
- 22:30: The Vision That Changed Everything
- 30:10: Breaking Patterns and Rewiring the Brain
- 37:40: Daily Practices and Final Wisdom
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- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nonadjavid
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrNonaDjavid
- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DrNonaDjavid
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And next thing, you know, I walked into the closet, I shut the door, I shut the lights and I sat against the wall and I held on to my knees. I'll never forget this moment and I started sobbing.
Speaker 2:Welcome to the Confident Podcast. I am Lisa Tarkington, your guide to mastering confidence and leadership. As the business and life coach keynote speaker and the driving force behind LEAD, I am here to help you break free from self-doubt, silence the imposter syndrome and step into your power as the person you're meant to be. If you press play today, it's because you're ready for something bigger. Each week, I'll bring you real, raw conversations and actionable insights that will empower you to redefine your leadership, reclaim your confidence and transform into the unstoppable force you've always known that you could be. This isn't just another podcast. It's a journey we're on together, so buckle up and let's dive into this transformation. Your next level awaits. Hi everybody, welcome to the Confident Podcast. I am your host, Lisa Tarkington, and this podcast is presented by LEAD, a nonprofit organization that focuses on leadership, well-being, confidence and a lot of key skills to help people be career ready and advance in their career as well.
Speaker 2:I'm really excited about today's conversation. I am not going to be alone, but we are a lot of key skills to help people be career ready and advance in their career as well. I'm really excited about today's conversation. I am not going to be alone, but we are going to be talking about navigating postpartum marriage and business, and how they all have their own little journey, but how they all collide together. We also are going to be talking about having visions in life, and when we set visions for ourselves, what does that look like? How do we live up to those moments and how do we navigate those? Because it's so beautiful when we have visions but they don't happen overnight. Guys, I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but they don't, and that's okay. But it's first noticing what is your vision, what is your purpose, what's the impact that you want to make, and then going from there to make changes into your life so that you can live the life that you want.
Speaker 2:So we're going to be talking to Dr Nona about her story. She has built an amazing company. She's an international speaker. She actually came over to America when she was 16 years old and she just helps people figure out in their businesses how to reclaim their freedom. And I think you'll notice throughout the whole conversation that's what she talks about, and so one of the things that we'll be talking about is how she navigated all of these things, but then how she reclaimed them, how she took back control, of finding love for herself, being with her kids, being in her business and then really that vision.
Speaker 2:Now we didn't get to dive into everything I would have wanted to do today, but you're going to be able to take some bite-sized pieces away that are really going to help you navigate challenges that you have in your life. As she was talking, I was resonating in so many ways and just feeling like I was her at one point too, and how I've grown as a person. But it's also a reminder that when we have visions, we have things that we want to do, when we want to make flips in our lives. It doesn't happen overnight and, again, that is okay as long as that we are knowing every day we're making a step towards the future. So let's dive into today's topic, all right? Well, hi, welcome to the Confident.
Speaker 1:Podcast Hi, thank you for having me. I'm excited.
Speaker 2:Yes, we are too. We're excited to hear your story, we're excited to chat about all things, from life with kids to business, to all of the things in between. So to kind of like set the precedence for today, I've already like kind of given your intro, your background and everything about that, but you have a really incredible story, and so you've come from Iran to building multiple successful businesses. Can you take us back to maybe a defining moment in your life for your early years that kind of shaped you to where you are today, and give us like, take us back to where you think that the audience needs to hear it.
Speaker 1:Ooh, I think the one I'll share today. Obviously, anyone reflective enough looking back, there's so many moments that if you go deep enough and if you reflect deeply you can kind of see the breadcrumbs of how it has shaped you, especially the struggles. But I think the one I will choose to share, at least in this moment, is when I was 16. Is when I was 16. And you mentioned me moving from Iran to the United States. When I was 16 years old. I did not speak a word of English, wow, yeah, and I.
Speaker 1:We moved here with my family and then I got thrown into high school. So imagine, 16 year old, all the hormones are going. I was ripped away quote unquote from my friends and from my home and from what was comfortable and thrown into a completely new environment where I really had to sink or swim. I really had no choice but to learn the language, to succeed in school, just to be able to get to the next level. And then the other piece of the equation is I was, you know, moving from a Middle East, from the Middle East, from a third world country, to the United States. My parents had brought in all of their like life savings, right, and I think when they moved they may have been 40, which is kind of wild to think about to like uproot and like I think about it for myself and my children I'm in that age range, anyway. So they come here and they bring all of their life savings were like middle, maybe middle upper class in Iran and then you come here and you got three months worth of like life with all of that life savings, and so we're in this tiny little apartment immediately in the poverty zone, right? So those moments, they became one of the most defining moments of my life, because I started to realize how much freedom was taken away from me by this move that you know that we had made, especially because I didn't have the money to purchase the things that a 16 year old girl wants to experience. Right, I already don't fit in. I already my hair is wild, I look different. I already don't fit in. So, and, and my clothes don't fit in, and we don't have the money for me to buy the clothes that I want to wear so I can fit in with my friends or people other people didn't even have friends at the time Um, but so all of that to to go it.
Speaker 1:Really, I learned a couple of different things there. One I learned this concept of sink or swim right and in that period of time I was really thrown into things and having to figure it out myself, and that did a couple of things. One I was able to take that concept of sink or swim and realize the power that it had, even though I was quote unquote forced into it. So later, as an entrepreneur, as a business owner, I go where can? I was quote unquote forced into it. So later, as an entrepreneur, as a business owner, I go where can I go, sink or swim? Right, when I help my clients, my students, I go where can you go, sink, sink or swim. So there's that piece of it.
Speaker 1:The other piece of it was I was so feeling so much restriction as a 16 year old that I thought I'm going to get a job, get a job and buy the things that I want to buy.
Speaker 1:So of course, I ended up working at a fast food place and, uh, I didn't last very long.
Speaker 1:I was not the kind to be to to have a nine to five job, or at the time it was like a couple hours a week probably. Anyhow, I quit and I started to dabble into starting a business at 16, 17 years old, not from a place of like, oh, this was a nurtured idea you should do. It's more like how can I generate some income to fit in, really. And I started to tutor the kids in the neighborhood because I was really good at math and then soon I learned the idea of leverage, like, oh, I only have a couple hours after I do my own homework to help these kids. What if I got other kids to help them and then take a cut? So that was really pivotal, I think, in my entrepreneurial journey because I started to learn some of those concepts in a little Mickey Mouse operation that I had going on. I ended up having a tutoring company all the way till I graduated Berkeley and I went to chiropractic. I ended up at chiropractic school and this company I started was paying off for some college.
Speaker 2:Wow. So it all started because you were 16 and you didn't have a lot and you wanted to kind of have the life that everybody else had. I know, isn't that sad? No, I don't think it's sad. I think it's pretty inspiring that you were like okay, like let's go, be determined to go do things. I think we look at those things like I mean, my first job was a dairy queen, besides babysitting. I look back to be an entrepreneur now, and so through that whole process you were, you were setting yourself up for success in a way, all because of that story and, I think, a lot of people. You get to choose in those moments, right, you get to choose. Am I going to make a change or am I okay with this? Right? What would you say now with this, right? What would you say now? So it sounds like for you money at that moment was to fit in. What would you say now is, when you think about success and things like that, what's? Is there a difference? Is there not a difference for you?
Speaker 1:Massive, massive difference. I think a lot of why I, when I first started whether it was the tutoring business or even building my first, say, million dollar business I was really driven with a lot of scarcity and fear and wanting to fit in. It was like the same emotional addiction to wanting to fit in and wanting to be worthy of wanting to. You know, I guess, a sense of proving myself. So that really carried over all the way, I would say, until I had my first child. At that time I had built my first business, was extremely successful, and then I had a moment which if we get to it I'll share to where I realized, man, that's not the way to go. That's not the way to go, although that had served me. And that's why I said what isn't it sad? Not because the journey was sad. I am grateful for the journey, but what was sad about it?
Speaker 1:Looking back, reflecting back on the old version of myself, and one thing I wish I knew back then is the drive, the reason, the emotional attachment to why you do the thing that you do is so much more important than the thing that you do Now. My definition of success has nothing to do with validation or wanting to fit in, or fear, or scarcity. I've worked through so much of that. Of course it pops up Now. My definition of success has to do with contribution. It has to do with growth. It has to do with the fact that have I progressed as an individual, as a human being? Am I contributing more? As a mom, am I a better partner? Am I a better coach? Am I a better teacher?
Speaker 2:Okay, awesome, awesome. So let's talk about that. Let's talk about, like you have kids, right, you have gone through businesses, you've gone through lots of changes in life. So all of those are defining moments in our lives. They're all things that help us, you know, navigate postpartum, marriage, businesses, all the things that we're talking about today. So take us back to that moment, I guess, when you, like, we're having moments in your life where, okay, I'm postpartum, like I have a lot going on in my marriage, a lot going on in my business, like, take us there, tell us about that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, absolutely. This is my favorite struggle because it has been the most pivotal in how I do things and how I go about, look you know, kind of creating the life that I want to create, and it's been pivotal in everything that I have been teaching. So, like I mentioned the first, you know I got out of chiropractic school, started my first business as a private practice. I had a pediatric and pregnancy practice here in Southern California and the first couple of years I completely burnt out and a lot of it had to do with the fact that I was pushing and I was trying to make all of these things happen Again. The driving, the emotional force behind it was I don't want to be like that, I want to fit in, I want to, I want the validation, I want the authority, I want the success. And I thought it looked a certain way and I remember I was, um, you know, I had, I just had. I have two boys now, one is nine and one is five. So my nine-year-old at the time was an infant. I he'd just been born. He may have been like a month, maybe three months, and I was on maternity. So maybe he was less than three months and I put him down for a nap, like it seemed like it was like the fifth nap of the day and it's, you know, nearly noon, and so I put him down for a nap, just like any other day. I call my staff at the time I was in practice, I was managing 13 different employees call my staff, hold a meeting, do all the things, go over some numbers, just as if a regular day in my life. And next thing, you know, I walked into the closet, I shut the door, I shut the lights and I sat against the wall and I held on to my knees. I'll never forget this moment and I started sobbing. I started sobbing and I was just crying and my sleeves were wet and I was just kind of out of breath. I hadn't cried like that since probably since I was a little girl from sadness, from point of sadness, and I was overwhelmed, I was depressed, I was trying to muffle my, my crying, because my, I didn't want my newborn to to wake up.
Speaker 1:And in, in that dark moment that there were some realization, one I was facing with all the things that I hadn't faced before, and some of the things that I came to face were the fact that I had been checking off all the things that the world out there had been telling me. Is the meaning of success right? We just talked about that. Get married, have children, do the thing you know, start a business, get an, a, go to Berkeley, get a neurology all of the things that I had done.
Speaker 1:And then here I was in a marriage that wasn't working. It's completely lonely and isolated. I had a business on the surface that looked great. I had a business on the surface that looked great. My numbers looked great, my coaches would brag about look at how her business is doing. And yet I had built this business where I was completely a life, brick by brick, and then realized that those bricks were not leading to any kind of mountaintop or anything like that. It was more like these bricks were. I was building a brick wall around myself, isolating myself even more into the depth of ice. You know loneliness and isolation and sadness, because the path was not aligned. The path was not aligned and again I mentioned I was in a marriage that wasn't working. I was swimming in postpartum hormones and and I didn't have the you know at the time, the emotional capacity to get help and I'd gone to therapy, but I don't think I understood the depth of what I was experiencing.
Speaker 1:And in those moments I remember I, you know, you cry it out and then at some point I think anyone who's experienced something like that at some point you're like, okay, you kind of catch your breath and you're kind of done crying or there's no more cry. And I remember, in that moment, all of a sudden, I had this vision that I had had before before. It wasn't the first time I had this vision. I had this vision before and this vision was of this kind of life that seemed so unreasonable, lisa. It was so out there, especially from where I was sitting in the closet, that it was easier to be like no, just dismiss it. Except, this time was different. I was in the depth of a closet and I felt like I had nothing to lose. I had to do something different, because it was either going to be the end or it was going to be a beginning of something.
Speaker 1:And I, the vision, parts of the vision, like I said, I'd experienced, even as a little girl, which was the life, a lot of the life that I wanted to live like. I wanted to be in love. I'd experienced, even as a little girl, which was the life, a lot of the life that I wanted to live Like. I wanted to be in love, I wanted to have a cute little family, I wanted to travel, I wanted to have freedom, I wanted to contribute to the world in a different way than I was at the time, bigger, in a more meaningful way.
Speaker 1:And, and I was so far from that vision. And every time that vision had come up and this was the biggest difference in the past I would have said no, not for me, not right now. You know, too far, too unrealistic, too unreasonable, too unreachable. Except this time, I made a decision to continue to say yes to the vision, instead of saying, well, how the heck are you going to do that? Well, who are you to think that that is the life that you get to live, or whatever the case. And I did that and I remember, in that moment I felt a sense of freedom, a sense of connectedness, even though there was nobody, nobody around. It was really connectedness to myself. So I said yes to that vision and I walked out of the closet and I continue to say yes to the vision, vision.
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Speaker 2:So let's go a little bit deeper on these. So you brought up multiple things, so I want to remember and reflect on a few of these things. So, first off, navigating postpartum. Let's start there because I think you brought up marriage, you brought up postpartum. Let's start there because I think you brought up marriage, you brought up postpartum, you brought up your business, you brought up vision.
Speaker 2:Like there was a lot going on in that closet right. There was a lot of emotions, a lot to unpack things that, as you make that decision to move forward, you're not just doing tomorrow, right, like this is a process. This is things like, as you were speaking, I was thinking about myself and like I've had those moments. But I think what people don't understand is you don't just flip a switch and everything's going the way that you want. It is a process and I really want to be honest with people about that, because I think what we do is we go from I made the decision, okay, now I'm good, now everything I made, like everything's good, and that is not how my life has ever gone. And so let's start with the postpartum first. So you were in the midst of all those hormones. That was your first kid. You've had a second one since then, right. So like, how did you navigate those emotions to kind of get on the outside? And then we'll talk about business and marriage after that.
Speaker 1:Okay, such a great point and I the the thing I love to share about the story. I just want to speak to what you said about the fact that it's not overnight right, because, listen, I was in a marriage that wasn't working. That was my first child. I have a five-year-old from the same marriage. So we're talking 10 years ago and today I get to live that life right. Today I live that vision that I set 10 years ago in the closet.
Speaker 1:So, no, the decision is important. The decision in itself is never overnight, because what the decision is is really a series of down the rabbit hole. The deeper you go, the closer you are to that decision, because it creates contrast. Like you've got to be really, really unhappy with your situation, whether it's your business, your life got to be extremely like I'm not tolerating. It's got to be so bad that you're not tolerating for you to actually make the decision. So it seems, quote unquote, the decision was overnight, but no, there was a lot of pain to lead to the decision. And then when you make the decision, it's the day to day. I'm going to say yes to the vision. I'm going to say yes to the vision. I'm going to say yes to the vision. So, yeah, I love sharing that and I love sharing the fact that, no, it didn't. I didn't come out of the closet and then be like, oh okay, here's a new business.
Speaker 2:It's all magic, right? No, 10 years, that's like. I appreciate you saying the timeframe, because I think that that's the thing for me is like be honest with yourself and figure out what your vision is. The vision is going to veer off. Sometimes I've had visions where it's like I know this is where I want to go, but I got to veer a little bit, like being in a car right, like you're veering off. You might go left or right, you might actually take the wrong turn sometimes, thinking that you're right on the vision, and then you're like no, I got to back track. Or oh, I'm going to take the hills and the valleys to get up to where I want to go. And so 10 years is actually amazing to hear, because I think that that's just like honest and real right, like it's not, it's not three years, it's not four years.
Speaker 2:I think about all these people that I look up to and I'm like, oh, I just want to be like them. Right, like we have these inspirations. But then you hear their story and you're like, oh, yeah, that didn't happen overnight. Like even these influencers who are out there, who are content creators I was listening to one of them recently who was saying that she did content for four years before she even got like remotely anything. And then one thing hit and then she kept doing it over and over again. But it took four years of deciding every day. I'm going to go forward with this. So, anyways, back to like what we were just talking about, because I think that that's a really key point and a reminder for the audience is okay, let's go back to like. So you made the vision. You're navigating postpartum, because women do this, men have to also. That are in marriages, have wives that go through postpartum, or girlfriends or significant others, and so speak to that Like how did you navigate that?
Speaker 1:You know it's um with. I mean, the vision was really a crucial part for me and I started with setting a vision for what I wanted life to look like, what I wanted health to look like and what I was with my ex-husband. Now I was with him and you know there's two people involvement in making a level of marriage, or parent or parenting or any of those. And for where I was, I'm not one to blame, but for for where I was and where he was coming from, we were not a match for one another, let's just put it that way. And so that was probably the hardest and this is going to sound a little bit harsh, but the most challenging elimination was me coming to peace with myself that that was the wrong decision that I made along the way, and coming to peace with that. And um, and I think once I came face to face with that truth, even still, like I knew I didn't want to be in that marriage. But how difficult it is to unhook from those old emotional addictions of what if I end up alone? What if I can't make it? What if I'm wrong? What if I'm the one that sucks in this marriage. What if I can't find love? What if I never feel love coming to the surface? And for me, it was again saying yes to the vision of area of connection, knowing that I perhaps deserved love. It was. It started with a sliver of it and then it turned into no, no, no. I'm going to keep saying yes to this vision while I am in my marriage. Right, know, I'm going to keep saying yes to this vision while I am in my marriage, right, while I'm in this marriage, that in which I'm not feeling love or connection and I feel isolated, I'm going to keep saying yes to love. I'm going to keep saying yes to love, not outside of my marriage. In my marriage today, in this inner, next interaction, I'm going to keep saying yes. I'm going to keep saying yes.
Speaker 1:And I think, ultimately, what happens is, as you shift in who you are being and what your expectations are and what you want to experience in life, as you shift in a partnership, then two things will happen Either your partner in any kind of partnership business or personal will come along right, they'll catch up, or they'll fall off. I mean, this happens with all of our friends, right, if you have friends in high school. You were best friends in high school, but life takes you in different directions and there is no longer that resonance, that together ship, and so it was for us. It took that long to get to a point where you know there's lack of toleration.
Speaker 1:Did I know early on, a thousand percent? And one thing I you know there's no regrets. But one thing I would tell my old version or my younger self in this regards would be just to trust your gut, to have the confidence in yourself to make the decisions that may or may not fail, like it might fail If I leave this marriage. I may fail, totally true, but I also might not fail.
Speaker 2:Yeah Well, and kind of switching then to business. So you shared something when you were talking about your postpartum a little bit and being in the closet and you were saying I put the baby down, I took phone calls. Then I was crying and thinking like our numbers are never going to be high if I'm not on, I have to work all the time. All of these, I'm going to say, limiting beliefs that we put on ourselves. I've been there more times than I even want to talk about. But it's also very relatable and I don't even think it's entrepreneurship Like I'm just going to be completely like straight up with people. Like I remember that feeling when I worked in corporations you still have the weight on your shoulders in some way because it's your ownership, your things, you're leading it. When I worked in corporate I didn't take vacations because I had responsibilities. I didn't want to leave anybody high and dry. So take us with that. How did you navigate that shift with business for yourself to really set the right boundaries, self-respect and all of those pieces?
Speaker 1:I think that's a really important piece of the equation, especially with the students that I work with. They're mainly entrepreneurs. I agree with you. It actually goes across even in your marriage. If you feel like I have to, then you will have to. If you believe that you have to work hard at anything to make it happen, then that's the dynamic you are going to experience. And, speaking specifically maybe towards business owners or independently entrepreneurs, there is a complete shift in the mindset to go from I'm the owner, I am the practitioner, I'm the participant, I'm the manager, I manage my business. I do this to go into CEO. I'm the CEO and I'm the visionary. And the biggest shift in here that happens for me was exactly what you said. It was in the mind, it happened in the mind. I had to take on the identity of the CEO versus the owner who is operating the business. That was the biggest shift that I had to make, because what I'd been doing wasn't working.
Speaker 1:Lisa, I was stressed out. We all get into business or into our job high paying jobs or climb up the ladder of corporate, because we want freedom, whether it's finances or time or energy or, you know, quality time with family. That's what we want, that's what we truly want. Yet there is this underlying belief system that you have to struggle to succeed, you have to work hard to succeed, like to a point of exhaustion. And I think when neurologically, from childhood, we are connected to that, like success is built into your nervous system linked to struggle. Well, no matter where you get to, no matter what amount of money, what kind of business, what kind of family, you're consistently going to be linked up with struggle as you move up any kind of ladder in your relationship and your business, in your life, in your job, anywhere. So I had to make that distinction and I think it was helpful to have my background in neurology because you know, the more common example of this is Pablo's dog. Right, you ring the bell, you give a cookie. Next thing, you know, you ring the bell, no cookie, and there's still saliva and all the physiological effects of having a cookie without having the cookie. So the neurons that run together, they wire together, they fire together, they fire together, they wire together.
Speaker 1:So for me it was making a shift to creating ease and anchoring ease in my nervous system with success and with business and with the life that I wanted and with me as a mom and with me as a partner. So connecting ease, just like the doorbell, instead of struggle, and that in itself is a whole nother masterclass, but I will say um it to break any kind of pattern. It takes two. You know there are only two ways you can break a neurological pattern. One of them is trauma.
Speaker 1:Typically when we experience a big incident, a big divorce, a loss of a loved one, cancer, something like that, a diagnosis, we make shifts because it completely shifts your neurology. And then the other way that's more accessible to anybody that's listening, to break that pattern and connect ease and joy into the things that you do want to experience is repetition. So to repeat the vision, to repeat the identity and step into the identity of the CEO, of the kind of mom, of the kind of partner, of the kind of employee that I would like to be like to, repeatedly going back to that, to build and rebuild and, you know, rewire the nervous system to anchor those two things together, awesome, awesome.
Speaker 2:So it's very much about finding what your vision is and, honestly, everybody, it's okay if you don't know right now. I'll be completely honest with you. It's okay. I didn't have one for a while. My vision also changed along the way, but it's really cool when you see yourself and you're like I'm going to get there one day. You can visualize it, but there are steps to it and that doesn't have to be as a business owner. That can be at someone else's business wanting to move up that ladder. That can be as a mom, as a dad, anything you want to be, If you visualize it and really believe in it. It's those small steps, so kind of just a rapid fire to kind of end today. What is one book that you're reading right now?
Speaker 1:Well, I love rereading a book over and over.
Speaker 2:You Squared by price. Pritchett is really good, awesome. Okay, then, what is the number one um skill that you believe you're most confident in?
Speaker 1:I always say it might not be a skill, but my superpower is seeing someone and seeing their full potential Awesome.
Speaker 2:And then, what would you say to anybody who's lacking confidence right now, trying to navigate maybe it's postpartum business, or even their marriage, or just anything in general? What is a piece of advice that you would give them?
Speaker 1:Oftentimes, when you're in those situations, you may not see the long haul, you may not see the vision, but it's I kind of say it's foggy. But you can see what the next step is. Just look down, take the next step and trust your gut.
Speaker 2:And then last one is is what's a tool that you use? Is it journaling? Is it, you know, active listening? Is it taking someone else's workshop? Is it getting certified in something? What is that one tool that you use over and over again that has helped you progress the most?
Speaker 1:The most significant change that I've been able to make has been to go internal. I have two non-negotiables that I do every single day. One is meditation and two is reading over my life vision and making edits or kind of sitting with it.
Speaker 2:Love that, awesome. Well, thank you so much for being on the Confident Podcast. I loved hearing just like. I think one of the coolest things was hearing the different pillars of life. Right, we all have to navigate in different ways, we all have different stories, and when we get into the muddiness of things, that's where the real magic happens. Right, that's where I think I learn the most from people. I mean, if we would have had this conversation, you would have said like yeah, it was overnight.
Speaker 2:I wouldn't have related, to be honest, because my story still is on its journey, right, like I'm not at the visions that I have for myself yet, and so I think that that's like so beautiful to remind people of when you figure out that vision, and it's okay if you don't have it yet, it will come.
Speaker 2:It comes to all of us, as long as you have that reflection. Sometimes we have to like get a little bit of tears in there to get there, but it's just that constant progress. And you're saying at the end where you meditate, you reflect, you see people, and that's where people can figure out for themselves what are the tools that are going to work for them, where is their confidence shining through, because all of these stories that we hear is what helps us, figure out us. But then we have to take that information and then go internal right Like we've got to look for ourselves, because I think in the past I used to take on everybody's and be like, oh, I want what they got, oh, I want what they got, but really I had to figure out what do I want? And so, again, thank you so much for being on the Confident Podcast today.
Speaker 1:I just adore you and so grateful for this conversation. Thank you so much.
Speaker 2:I hope it was valuable for everybody listening, Thank you. Thank you so much for tuning into today's podcast. I had so much fun talking about navigating, marriage, talking about business, but really I think the theme of everything was is not only navigating, but truly looking internally to figure out our vision for our future, and that's what we talked about today and it was so inspiring. So, if you felt inspired, share with me what you learned. Share with me what your vision is. I love to hear people's big dreams and stories for themselves and so share that with me. Dm me on Instagram, Lisa Tarkington Official or the Confident Podcast. Make sure to subscribe to our channel on YouTube. And, of course, if you are looking to grow in your purpose, passion, communication skills and a variety of other key things to help you move to the next level, check out Lead Within Platform. It's an amazing platform. It helps you kind of go at your self pace and we also have a code for you to use. Find that in the show notes and, again, continue to spread love and kindness to everybody that you guys meet and have a great day.
Speaker 2:Thank you for joining me on this episode of the Confident Podcast. If today's episode resonated with you, head over to leadconfidentlyorg for today's show notes, along with discounts to our services. Don't forget to hit the subscribe button, leave a review and follow us on Instagram and YouTube at the Confident Podcast. Your feedback means the world to me and it helps more people discover the show. And hey, if you're feeling inspired to dive deeper, let's connect. You can find me on Instagram at LisaTarkingtonOfficial. Drop me a message and let's explore how I can support your journey to confidence and leadership. Remember you have the power to choose confidence every single day. Keep showing up, keep striving and keep believing in your potential. I'm cheering you on and I'll see you next time.
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